You don’t have to be better just to be.
You’ve probably heard the cliché “No one will love you until you love yourself.”
I don’t believe that’s exactly true. Think about it: You probably already love someone who doesn’t have a lot of love for themselves.
What I do believe is that the way we treat ourselves is connected to the way we treat each other, and the way we treat each other shapes the world we create.
You are told to love yourself but also taught to believe that you are not good enough as you are, that you cannot be fulfilled and successful at the same time, and that you always have to be striving to be BETTER.
What if loving yourself meant giving yourself permission just to BE?
You don’t have to be better just to be.
You’ve probably heard the cliché “No one will love you until you love yourself.”
I don’t believe that’s exactly true. Think about it: You probably already love someone who doesn’t have a lot of love for themselves.
What I do believe is that the way we treat ourselves is connected to the way we treat each other, and the way we treat each other shapes the world we create.
You are told to love yourself but also taught to believe that you are not good enough as you are, that you cannot be fulfilled and successful at the same time, and that you always have to be striving to be BETTER.
What if loving yourself meant giving yourself permission just to BE?
Allow yourself to be. Choose better for yourself.
Loving yourself isn’t about the need to BE better.
YOURSELF
When you love yourself, when you allow yourself just to be, you’re able to CHOOSE better for yourself.
EACH OTHER
When two people love each other, they allow each other to be fully themselves, and they’re able to CHOOSE better for the relationship.
Allow yourself to be. Choose better for yourself.
Loving yourself isn’t about the need to BE better.
YOURSELF
When you love yourself, when you allow yourself just to be, you’re able to CHOOSE better for yourself.
EACH OTHER
When two people love each other, they allow each other to be fully themselves, and they’re able to CHOOSE better for the relationship.
Love is a practice that can be learned.
I’m not talking about the feeling of love, which is sometimes readily available and sometimes hard to access, when you’re fighting yourself or someone else.
You can learn to practice love even when you don’t feel it for yourself.
You can practice love even when you don’t feel love for the other person.
You can feel love for each other and not know how to practice love for each other.
But you can learn.
Love is a practice that can be learned.
I’m not talking about the feeling of love, which is sometimes readily available and sometimes hard to access, when you’re fighting yourself or someone else.
You can learn to practice love even when you don’t feel it for yourself.
You can practice love even when you don’t feel love for the other person.
You can feel love for each other and not know how to practice love for each other.
But you can learn.
One framework, inside & out.
One framework, inside and out.
Choosing to care for yourself and for your people – that’s a life you can love.
This area should present the inner and outer work as problems to be addressed by coaching.
Inner Work
Love yourself.
Outer Work
Love your people.
Individual and couples coaching
This should present my offerings to individuals and couples.
My approach and experience
My framework is informed by:
- Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- Nonviolent Communication
- my trauma-informed training at Moving the Human Spirit
- my ICF credential
- and my lived experience: coming out as gay late in life, losing 200 pounds, embracing my ADHD, and loving myself.
What’s in a name?
A lot. The name means so much to me. It’s part IFS jargon and part I Ching, all of which is explained here: <link to my blog>.
TL;DR: That place where you can just BE is the Centered Self.
Integrative? That’s Centered Self: Inside & Out.
Let’s work together.